Some people don t tell, or don t tell every partner. Some don t tell until after they've had sex. It s important that herpes does not become a secret--for many reasons.

Once you and your partner know the facts, you may find your views changing.

• Telling your partner allows this person to make an informed choice. When you tell, you are showing respect and concern for his or her well being. Your honesty may build intimacy and trust.
  
• Telling your partner helps prevent transmitting herpes. If you keep herpes a secret, you might invent lies and half-truths to postpone sex during outbreaks. And, you give your partner a shared stake in making decisions together about how to reduce risk.
  
• Telling your partner can begin an important discussion about sexual health. Herpes is one of over 20 sexually transmitted infections. Others have more serious health consequences. Your honesty encourages your partner to share sexual history and health information with you.
  
• Telling your partner can prevent future misunderstandings or threat of legal action.